Perhaps you are wondering if you are in an abusive relationship. Well the signs are pretty obvious. It does not have to take a rocket scientist to figure out what it is. You are in an abusive relationship when your partner tends to harm your emotionally or physically on a daily basis. In few cases it happens once in a while, but in most of the cases, it is an everyday affair.
A good relationship is one where both the partners have a good understand with each other. They tend to put up with each other’s short comings and live in peace together. That is a sign of a strong home and the ideal atmosphere to bring up your children. However, there are many homes today, which are broken inside.
When partners are abusive to their partners, then there is a huge problem. They tend to take you for granted. They like to hurt you and see you cry at all times. They come to you with the intention of arguing or fighting with you for some reason or the other. Whether it is day or night, they do not have any other agenda the moment they see you.
You will notice that they constantly humiliate you in front of your family or friends. Even if you talk to them politely, they answer back rudely with the intention that you would talk back and end up arguing. You in many cases tend to ignore them because you love them or do not want your children to suffer, but you are doing the wrong thing.
Is there any way out?
Counseling sessions can be provided to them if they agree. Perhaps, they have had a very troublesome childhood or would have been abused when they were younger, by a known person hence they like to take that anger out on you knowing very well, you will come back to them. Usually these are the reasons for their abusive behavior.
However, in some cases, there might be some physiological problems which knowingly or unknowingly to you, is the reason for this kind of frequent outburst. The thing is, you need to be careful, if your partner is an alcoholic or drug user. That is because you never know what he/she might end doing to you during their high phases.
When you are in a relationship with an abusive partner, it usually does not last long. The more you keep putting up with their abuse and harm every day the bolder they become. It is only a matter of time before they decide to do away with you. That is why, you need to stop the abuse as soon as possible by getting legal separated from them and take your kids along with you.
It would be best to relocate somewhere far as possible. Perhaps a new country if you can. Some of these partners tend to keep following you everywhere you go. When you do that, you are bringing a new phase into your life. There is no point in continuing with this of relationship because there is no future in it.